Powerful Females Cultivate and Recognize Internal and External Beauty
July 1, 2015 8:43 p.m.
The centerpiece of this most recent blog post is the Dove commercial titled: Dove Real Beauty Sketches | You’re more beautiful than you think (3mins). Below is a link to the commercial. Once you have viewed the commercial, continue reading this post and share with me your thoughts. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XpaOjMXyJGk.
A few months ago, my friend, Karen, sent me a picture she took of me and my husband having dinner at our favorite Mexican restaurant. As I opened the picture on my cell phone , immediately, I noticed how handsome my husband is, the warmth of our embrace, and how vividly the image captured the festive mood of the evening. What I also noticed is the image of me. I hate looking at pictures of myself; I cringe at an impending photo op. The phrase “Say cheese!” hangs over my head like a guillotine. Why is that? In the past, I have focused on the negative features of my image; not the positive. However, my reaction this time was different. The image of the woman smiling back at me (me!) was truly beautiful. As I scanned my digital likeness, I noticed the elongated facial structure, the almond-shaped brown eyes, the genuine bright smile, the full naturally pink-colored lips, the smooth and even complexion, and the closely cropped, naturally curly, neatly styled hairdo. The woman in the picture was indeed cute. But more importantly, I could tell that at that moment in time, when that picture was taken, she (Kelley = me) was joyful and content. These two qualities (joy and contentment) identify inner beauty at its zenith.
I am still surprised at the revelation that I feel more beautiful now than I have in my younger years. Wow! It has taken almost 50 years for me to see the value and the true beauty of me – just like the women in the Dove commercial. One of the quotes from the commercial struck a chord with me: “We spend a lot of time as women analyzing and trying to fix the things that aren’t quite right and should spend more time appreciating the things we do like.” I couldn’t agree more. Why are we so hard on ourselves?
Granted, most of us don’t resemble Halle Berry, Jamie Lee Curtis, or Sophia Loren . Nonetheless, the external and internal beauty we possess should be recognized –not just by others – but by ourselves. Without a doubt, most of us would agree that the pursuit of physical beauty should not be our chief goal in life. Still, there is another kind of beauty that is even more important than external physical beauty. Above all, inner beauty should be cultivated and recognized. What does inner beauty look like?
A woman with true inner beauty is dignified, sincere, magnanimous, openhearted, altruistic, amiable, and sensible. She is not self-centered, devious, sarcastic, bitter, belligerent, or surly. Visualize this, if the words we spoke and our actions toward others were manifested on our face, or on our skin, would we be beautiful? Ask yourself this “If the whole world were blind, would I still be beautiful?” Time has taught me that external beauty may fade, but inner beauty, those qualities that impact how we treat others and how we make others feel are what make us truly beautiful .
beauty (n.) – early 14c., “physical attractiveness,” also “goodness, courtesy,” from Anglo-French beute,